4 Hairpin Turns In The Emotional Roller Coaster Of Divorce Healing

4 Hairpin Turns In The Emotional Roller Coaster Of Divorce Healing

Even in the most amicable of situations, divorce can feel like a death. It's so important to honor whatever feelings arise so that you can move on.

There is no set time-line for healing after a divorce, so don't be surprised if there is a long stretch of time filled with a roller coaster ride of emotional ups and downs.

One thing to watch out for are the sudden and unsettling emotional hairpin turns., like these extended trips down memory lane... 

1. Nostalgia isn't reality. There's a difference between enjoying a memory and living in the past. Make sure you are aware of which you are doing and don't get stuck there.

2. Playing the "what if" game. The only place that gets you is nowhere.

3. Replaying what went wrong and, how you were right. 

4. Beating yourself up for past choices. Punishing yourself now for making the choices you did then isn't fair. You did the best you could with the information you had.

Addressing big feelings as they come up helps tremendously. So does time.

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