Divorce & Social Media: 4 Tips to Keep Yourself Safe (and Sane!) Online
There are many so things you'll have to do when going through a divorce. But what about keeping your online presence safe? Here's how social media can affect your divorce and how you use it.
It's no secret that social media has had a profound effect on the way we communicate. For better or for worse, social media has changed the landscape of divorce forever. In today's digital age, it's more important than ever to be aware of the dangers that lurk online when you're going through divorce planning.
Here are 4 divorce tips for keeping yourself and your kids safe during and after your divorce.
Take A Break From Social Media
If you're going through a divorce, the first thing you should do is take a break from social media. This may seem like an impossible task, but it's important to give yourself some time to heal. Research shows that social media can cause depression, and this is especially true in the case of divorce and women. In fact, negative feelings may be triggered by social media, which may lead to or aggravate depressive symptoms. So, if you’re already feeling down during your divorce, don’t make things worse than they already are. Make a commitment to stay off social media.
Limit Your Time on Social Media
If you can't bring yourself to take a break from social media, try to at least limit your time on it. This means setting a timer for yourself and only spending a certain amount of time on social media each day. This will help you to avoid getting sucked into the social media black hole. You should also consider unfriending your ex. This will help you avoid any potential arguments or drama that could come from seeing your ex's posts. It will also help you to start moving on with your life.
Approach Social Media With Caution
Once you're feeling better, you can start using social media again, but be sure to use it wisely. Don't post anything that could potentially be used against you in court. And never post anything negative about your ex-spouse online, no matter how tempting it may be. Social media can be used as evidence in court, so it’s important to be mindful of what you post during a divorce.
If You Have Kids, Keep Them In Mind
When it comes to divorce and kids, it's also important to keep their best interests in mind when using social media. Be careful about what photos and information you share about them online. You should also avoid posting anything that could embarrass or upset them. And never use social media to vent about your ex-spouse or your divorce. Your kids don't need to see that.
When In Doubt, Don’t Post It
When you're going through a divorce, it can be tempting to vent your frustrations online (instant gratification anyone?). But the truth is that anything you post on social media could potentially be used against you in court. That's right ANYTHING! And if you have kids, remember that anything you post about your ex could reflect badly on you in custody proceedings. So it's best to avoid posting anything negative about your former spouse online. Instead, it's important to go through your old posts and clean up your online presence before you start the divorce process. Then, if you need to vent your frustrations, consider journaling or talking to a therapist instead of posting on social media.
By following these simple tips, you can help keep yourself and your kids safe during and after your divorce. So go forth and socialize wisely! And be sure to also check out Divide & Thrive’s divorce planner to help you stay focused on what’s important during your divorce.
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