Are You Headed For A Gray Divorce?

Are You Headed For A Gray Divorce?

If you're over 50 and thinking about getting a divorce, you're not alone. The divorce rate for people over 50 has doubled in the last 25 years, according to a report from the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP).

Why? The answer is complex but includes factors like financial security, health issues and changes in social norms. Divorce is difficult at any age but can be especially hard if you're dealing with an empty nest or retired early—and these days there are many more people who fall into that category due to longer lifespans and career changes.

But don't fear! The good news is that divorce doesn't have to mean reinventing yourself or starting over. In fact, divorce can be an opportunity for growth in your life as well as provide emotional support during this challenging time.

Why have the divorce rates for people over 50 doubled in the last 25 years?

According to a recent study by the Pew Research Center, more than half of all marriages in America end in divorce. The divorce rate for people over 50 has doubled in the last 25 years, and it's expected to continue rising. So what's going on?

According to experts, there are many reasons for this increase in gray divorces including:

  • Aging—As we age, our priorities change and we may find ourselves wanting different things from life than our spouses do. We might also have different needs or desires when it comes to caregiving responsibilities (e.g., taking care of elderly parents). In these situations, couples who don't communicate well or have other conflicts could end up growing apart instead of together.

  • Changes in life stage—It can often be difficult for older men and women whose children have moved out or divorced themselves but still live nearby; they may feel like they no longer fit into their families anymore because they're no longer needed as much financially or emotionally by their grown children.

If you've been married for a long time, you'll likely need help during and after the divorce process.

Divorce is a difficult time for everyone involved. It's a time of change, uncertainty, grief and financial stress—and sometimes emotional stress as well. If you've been married for a long time, divorce can be especially stressful because you may not know how to handle all the changes and challenges that come with it.

If you're heading into a gray divorce or are already in one, the best thing you can do is to address the emotional side of what you're going through and the business side.

Look, there's a lot to do: gather your essential documents and statements, consider therapy, get handle on your financial realities and start organizing everything for next steps of your separation or divorce. The good news is that we've been where you are and created the Divide & Thrive's divorce planner to walk you through everything with easy to use financial planning tools, detailed document lists and more. Our planner has helped thousands of people throughout the U.S. and Canada prepare for divorce, save time and money during divorce, and plan for the best next chapter of their lives. Take a peek inside the planner and read reviews HERE

Embrace your new life

You're going to have to learn how to live on your own again. Whether it's in the same house or in a new place, you'll need to find the independence that you once had before marriage. You may never be as spry and energetic as you were when you first moved out of your parents' house, but with time and effort, this transition is doable.

You will also have less money than ever before in your life—and if both partners work hard enough, perhaps actually less than one-half of what they were used to having together. It's important not to let this get you down; instead, see it as an opportunity for change and growth! The point is not "I don't want anything bad happening," but rather "What can I do right now?"

Finally (and I think most importantly), divorcing couples need their mental space back—not necessarily physically but mentally too! They've been living under someone else's rules for so long that they forgot they were capable of making decisions themselves without consulting someone else first (even if it was just their spouse).

When we're young we're taught independence from our parents by asking questions like "Why should I go along with what my parents say?" but later on we forget about questioning authority altogether because there aren't many things left outside our marriage/relationship/family unit that should challenge us anymore once we've made those commitments​

Divorce is difficult at any age but divorce can be especially hard if you're over 50.

Divorce is hard at any age. Even if you're in your 40s, it's not always easy to get over the end of a marriage. But it can be especially hard if you're over 50 and considering divorce for the first time.

We hope that by reading this article and learning about the statistics, you can feel empowered to make better decisions for yourself in your marriage or relationship. If you’re thinking about getting divorced or separating from your spouse, we want to help you navigate the process. We have resources available on our website that can help guide your decision making process, including information on common legal questions like property division and children in divorce.

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